No One Said This Would Be Easy

I think we can all agree that this whole parenting thing is beautiful, amazing and hard as sh!t. Personally, I feel like any time I “figure something out” such as a nap schedule, what a certain gesture or grunt means, or how to deal with a tantrum, everything changes and my “go to” moves no longer work. I usually get about ten days to two weeks of feeling like “I got this” before it all implodes in my face. Sigh. But, this is not a Mommy Venting about How Hard Parenting Is type o’ blog. So, I will change the channel on this little vent-fest back to our regularly scheduled program of food- and eating-related happenings in this household.

Instead, I will now vent about the food- and eating-related happenings in this household as well as share some tricks and tips my friends and I have gathered to try to ease the food-related challenges we face. Because, even though no one said this would be easy, in my world everything is made easier, or a little less hard, by hearing about how others are handling the same lovely little issues. At the bottom of the post I included some delicious recipes courtesy of my friend Amy. (Thanks for sharing, Amy!!)

So far, Eliana has remained “a good eater” and will usually taste, if not actually eat, whatever we offer her. But, that does not mean that mealtime in our home is easy, carefree or always so much fun. Or, that my teeny tiny foodie isn’t hugely opinionated about what she wants to eat and when she wants to eat it. And because she is a toddler, she has what I think of as “Typical Toddler Testing Moments” which include but are not limited to the following during mealtime:

- Arching her back when I’m putting her into the high chair just because it’s fun to see   Mommy’s reaction

- Eating more or less of something she is served just because it is fun to see Mommy’s reaction

- Tasting a food and spitting it right back out just because it is fun to see Mommy’s reaction

- Moving food around on her tray because then I might think she has eaten it just because it is fun to see Mommy’s reaction

- Putting her food or fork into her hair just because it is fun to see Mommy’s reaction

- Pretending to choke herself with her fork just because it is fun to see Mommy’s reaction

- Tossing her food, fork or water off the tray just because it is fun to see Mommy’s reaction

Notice a common theme?  So. Super. Fun.

You all can probably predict that the last bullet makes this O.C.D. HelicopterMommy bananas. I can’t stand it! Eliana knows that I can’t stand it, and so this is when I have to work the hardest to make myself not react—so I simply remove her from her chair when she does it.

Keep calm and carry on, right? It’s better than screaming, “I’M IN CHARGE!!!!” which I try not to do. Aloud, at least.

So, without further ado, here is my list of tips, tricks and ideas that I’ve gathered along the way to help make mealtime a little less challenging.

·    Introducing a food more than once and in different presentations. For example, if sautéed zucchini wasn’t a hit, then I will grate the zucchini and mix it into pasta or eggs, or cut the zucchini into chunks and roast it or peel it into strips and sprinkle some lemon juice on it. Any way about it, Eliana tries a food many times and in many ways. Even if she spits it out, she is becoming more used to the flavors, textures, smells and tastes of a food.  

·    Staggering the introduction of various foods in her meals so she eats an “acceptable amount” of her protein, vegetables or fruit before the carbs come to the table. Because of Eliana’s love affair with all things carbohydrate, I make sure she has eaten lots of the other foods before I even bring bread to the table. Matt and I have taken to hiding in the kitchen to eat a piece of toast if Eliana is awake and not eating any herself. We also refer to it as B-R-E-A-D because she knows exactly what the words “bread” and “toast” mean when we say them. And believe me, once the bread does hit the table, there is no fun way to get her focused on anything else. The rest of the meal typically sounds something like this:

“Eliana, you can have more bread after you eat one more bite of eggs. Just one more bite and you can have more bread. Eggs then bread. See? Mommy does that too, so she gets her protein. Oh, good! Eggs are yummy, aren’t they? Okay, now here is a piece of bread. Okay, now more eggs, please.”

·    Filling foods she likes with vegetables. Frittatas and scrambled eggs work well for me. I load them up with sautéed or roasted vegetables. I do this with pasta too. I put a little pile of pasta or piece of frittata on Eliana’s tray and often, she picks out what she loves first. So the pasta, tomatoes and pieces of egg are devoured right away. Then, she will usually go back through the pile and pick out the vegetables, beans, tofu, etc.

·    Roasting vegetables to bring out their flavor. I started doing this when Eliana began balking at the concept of my feeding her rather than her feeding herself. That meant no more purees and a lot more finger foods. I think some vegetables are fine to give her raw, like corn and chopped tomatoes. I think she can swallow those without problems. But, vegetables like carrots were a little trickier. I found that throwing them in a pan and roasting them made the veggies soft enough for her to eat in little chunks. Roasting vegetables also brings out their natural sweetness. So, I think it might make vegetables that are less appealing, a little more so.

·    Hiding the vegetables. Honestly, I don’t love this idea because I believe that Eliana should know what she is eating. But, if it comes down to it, I will do this more so Eliana still consumes vegetables even if she doesn’t know it. This trick is something I did fairly often when I was making purees for Eliana. For me, it was more of a way to get her to eat vegetables I thought she would have a hard time eating on their own, such as sautéed greens. She couldn’t manage them very well, so I typically put sautéed spinach, kale or arugula into purees I was already making. Plus, it was a good way to make sure my fruits and vegetables didn’t go to waste. I’d steam and puree them and stick some in the fridge and some in the freezer. I realized that store-bought vegetable ravioli is a good trick, too.

My friend Amy is pretty masterful with hiding vegetables in really clever ways. She takes it to levels I’ve never thought of before. Her husband does not eat vegetables at all, so for years she did things like sauté and puree spinach and/or broccoli and add it to the meatballs she made him. I can’t say he didn’t notice a slight difference, but he ate them anyway. More recently, her son Joey, 4 years old, hasn’t been as cooperative as he used to be about eating his vegetables. One trick Amy told me about was to puree cooked spinach with marinara sauce and put it on a mini whole-wheat pizza she made for him. Joey ate it all up!  See Amy’s yummy recipes below.  If you have any recipes or tricks you’d like to share, either send me an email to jory1217@gmail.com, or even better, post it in the comments section of ttf!

Marinara Sauce (See below for how to add secret veggies, meat or tofu)

·    2 tablespoons olive oil

·    1 medium onion, chopped

·    2 teaspoons garlic, minced

·    1 28-ounce can crushed tomatoes

·    1 teaspoon oregano, dried

·    1 teaspoon basil, dried

·    1 whole bay leave (optional)

·    1/2-teaspoon sugar

·    Salt and pepper, to taste

Over medium heat, heat oil in a large pot until hot. Add onion and garlic, sauté for 3-5

minutes until the onions begin to appear translucent. Add the tomatoes, stir. Add in the

herbs and bay leaves. Sprinkle in sugar, salt and pepper. Stir. Lower the heat and continue to simmer for 30 minutes, uncovered. Stir occasionally.

Marinara Sauce with Secret Veggies 

Marinara Sauce with Secret Vegetables or Secret Meat

Veggie Version:

Steam or sauté spinach, broccoli, or your favorite veggie. When you are done cooking the veggies, drain off extra liquids. Put 1 cup of marinara sauce in the mini prep and add the veggies. Food-process the veggies and sauce. The sauce will become a brownish red.  When it is very smooth, you can combine this veggie sauce to more plain tomato sauce and hand mix.  This helps to hide the veggies even more.

Meat or Tofu Version:

Add pureed cooked chicken, meat, turkey or uncooked tofu the same way to add to sauce.

Spaghetti Squash with Sauce

·    1 Large spaghetti squash or 2 small ones

Slice spaghetti squash in half lengthwise. Scoop out the seeds with a spoon and clean as you would a pumpkin. Completely submerge the squash, 1 half at a time, in a large pot of boiling water and cook for about 20 minutes until the inside is just tender to a fork and pulls apart in strands. (It is better to undercook the squash if you're not sure.) Remove, drain and cool squash in a cold water ice bath to stop the cooking process. Scoop out the cooked squash from its skin with a spoon as you would an avocado and discard the skin. Use a fork to fluff and separate the squash into "spaghetti-like” strands. You can also use your hands. Just before serving, put the cooked squash into a strainer and dip it into boiling water to reheat. You can cook it more if it is a little too al dente for your liking as well.

Serve with one of the sauces above.

Amy’s Cook’s Notes:

·    1 cup of spaghetti squash is a full serving of veggies.

·    Making homemade sauce cuts out several grams of sugar as well as fat.

·    My favorite kitchen tool is my Kitchen Aide mini-prep. You can get them for between $30-$40.

·    For my Marinara Sauce with Secret Veggies, I use broccoli and spinach because they are really good for brain development. 

Whole-Wheat Mini Pizza with Hidden Veggies

·    Whole Wheat pita

·    Veggie marinara sauce (recipe above)

·    Shredded mozzarella cheese

Pre-heat the toaster oven to 375°. Put a few tablespoons of the veggie marinara sauce on the pita.  The veggie marinara sauce should be very smooth with no lumps.  Sprinkle the cheese all over the sauce so no veggie sauce is showing.  If you want you could put a few teaspoons of plain marinara sauce on top of the cheese.  Cook for 10-15 minutes.  Use a pizza cutter to cut pizza into 4-6 pieces.

Whole Wheat Pizza with Veggie Marinara Sauce

A happy Joey eating his pizza!

Amy’s Cook’s Notes:

·    I like to use Horizon brand organic shredded mozzarella for my pizza.

·    Whenever I buy whole-wheat pita, I make sure the first ingredient listed is “whole wheat.”

Amy’s Green Lentil Crusted Baked Chicken Cutlets

·    ¾lb to 1lb of thin-sliced organic chicken cutlets

·    1 organic egg

·    Splash of milk

·    Organic Green Lentil Beans (Ground in the mini-prep to powder consistency)

·    Grated Locatelli or other Parmesan cheese

Preheat oven to 425°. Beat the egg and add a splash of milk to the bowl. Pour lentil powder on a plate and sprinkle in some salt, Parmesan cheese, and pepper. Dip the chicken into the egg mixture. Then press chicken into lentil “flour” on both sides. Place on either a non-stick cookie sheet or one that has been sprayed with cooking spray. Bake for 15 minutes turning over once in the middle.

Variations:

**To turn into green lentil baked Chicken Parmesan with hidden veggies:

If using sautéed chicken cutlets, put in a dish and pour marinara with or without hidden veggies over chicken. Sprinkle some mozzarella cheese and Parmesan cheese over chicken. Bake for 10 minutes.

**To make the baked cutlets into Parmesan:

Bake the cutlets above for 10 instead of 15 minutes.  Take out of the oven.  Gently spoon sauce over chicken and add mozzarella cheese.  You can put in a dish or keep on the cookie sheet. Cook for an extra 10 minutes at 425.

Amy’s Cook’s Notes:

·    I make a bunch of ground lentil flour and use it to replace flour whenever I cook. It adds fiber and protein with much less carbohydrates than breadcrumbs.

·    You can also cook the chicken in a pan with a little olive oil for 3 minutes on each side for total of 6 minutes instead of baking it first.

And here are some photos of my tomato sauce with zucchini and summer squash mixed into it. I guess I was inspired by Amy!

I love the colors here!

Mostly, I pureed it out of laziness because I didn't want to take the time to cut up the vegetables even more.

With whole wheat penne

Happy Cooking!

Dirty Dozen vs. Clean 15

As you all know, I try to give Eliana as much organic produce as possible. But, my mom was telling me that some types of produce are grown with less pesticides than others. So, not all produce I give her needs to be organic. I decided to look into it. I found the website of the Environmental Working Group. Yearly, they publish a list of the "dirtiest produce" (most pesticide-laden) and the "cleanest produce" (grown with least amount of pesticides.) They call this list The Dirty Dozen and the Clean 15. 

I was a little surprised by some of what I saw. I knew apples were full of pesticides but I was surprised to find out that potatoes were as well. Or that onions and corn were on the "clean" list. Thanks for the advice Mom!

On another note, because I can't resist posting photos of Eliana, here is a photo from last night. We are in Florida with my parents right now and my brother and his family are visiting as well. All ten of us went out to eat last night and here is Eliana with her cousin David who is 8 months old.

Hi David! Want some of my apples?

And today Eliana tried her first popsicle. I wasn't prepared for it as you can see by her lack of an appropriate bib. (Who am I? Didn't I write a WHOLE POST about how she needs a bib at all times??) Thanks to my sister-in-law, Mariana, for being ever prepared.

You can just tell I'm worried about staining both our yellow shirts, right?

Live and learn, huh?

Potato Leek Soup with Quinoa

I made this soup for Eliana when she was around 7 months old and froze some of it for later. Now at 10 months old, Eliana prefers to feed herself rather than allow me to spoon-feed her. And you know I’ve barely let her hold the spoon to practice using one! (I’m absolutely getting better at reforming my crazy Helicopter Mommy tendencies. But, there is only so much progress I can make at this point.) So, since she prefers finger foods, I’ve been working on ways to make soups and purees into something she can handle. Today I was inspired to try using quinoa for texture. I mixed it with the warmed soup and Eliana loved it! Here’s the soup recipe. It was still easier for her to eat the mixture off the spoon, but she got to play with it on her tray and did get some of it into her mouth.

Quinoa is yummy!

Potato Leek Soup with Fennel
-2 organic Russet potatoes, skin on, chopped
- 4 large leeks, white parts only, chopped
-1 small bulb of fennel, white parts only, chopped
-1 quart low-sodium vegetable broth
-2 tablespoons olive oil
-Salt and pepper to taste

Heat olive oil in a large pot on medium heat. Sauté leeks, fennel and a pinch of salt for around 5 minutes. Add broth and potatoes and bring heat up to a boil for 5 more minutes. Simmer mixture for 15 minutes until potatoes are tender. Blend and season with salt and pepper.

Let cool slightly before serving to baby.

I do let her practice with the spoon. For about 1.5 seconds at a time before I snatch it back.

Don't mess with me, Woman! That was MY spoon.

Happy Cooking!

Baby Food Recipes 2/20/12

Here are some more of the recipes I’ve made for Eliana in the last few weeks:

Zucchini Puree

- 1 organic zucchini sliced or chopped

-  Olive oil, chopped garlic, salt and pepper to taste

Heat olive oil in a pan on medium heat. Add zucchini and a pinch of salt and stir. Add garlic and pinch of pepper. Stir and let cook around 4 or 5 minutes till tender but not mushy. Blend.

Let cool slightly before serving to baby.

Kale-Potato Puree

- ½ small organic potato- chopped (any kind except sweet potato- leave skin on)

- ¼ small yellow onion- chopped

- Several leaves of organic purple or green kale- stalk removed- roughly chopped or torn

- Olive oil, chopped garlic, salt and pepper to taste

Steam potato and set aside. Steam kale and set aside. Heat olive oil in pan on low-medium heat and add onion, garlic and salt. Cook until golden- around 4 minutes. Combine all ingredients and blend.

  Let cool slightly before serving to baby. 

My daddy likes to call this photo: Kale and Potato Goatee

Blueberry Puree

- 1 cup frozen, organic blueberries, thawed

-  ¼ cup orange juice (or other juice with no sugar added) for sweetness (if needed)

Puree blueberries. If tart, add juice as needed for a bit of sweetness. 

Variation: Mix with oatmeal or yogurt.

My hands got stained while making it.

So why was I surprised that her lips were purple for a day?

I had dressed her in all black. Didn't anticipate eating (and staining) the strap though. Oops!

Happy Cooking!

Bibs are made to get Dirty

If you’ve been reading any of my posts so far, particularly Helicopter Mommy, you know that I’m a nut job about keeping Eliana’s clothes clean in this whole adventure into solid foods. The truth is, I’ve been this way since the beginning. As soon as she began drinking from bottles, and not very neatly at that, I began to freak out about needing to have a bib and burp cloth for her at all times. (And yes, of course, they matched her clothes. Duh.) I was such a nut about it that I bet my poor husband heard me screeching, “Use a bib!!” even in his sleep. But now he has been well trained to always use one (for Eliana) so it is no longer a problem.

So, using a bib for babies isn’t a unique concept—I get that. But you want to hear what qualifies me as an OCD Super Spazz? I don’t just want to keep Eliana"s clothes clean. I want her bibs to be clean too. Believe me, I know it’s a bit crazy. I mean, it’s a BIB! A bib is made to get dirty. That’s. Its. Purpose. I repeat this to myself quite regularly. I’m such a crazy person about her bibs that a bib hierarchy exists in my home.

It is sort of a caste system for bibs.

(Are you wondering yet if I see a therapist for my issues?)

Here’s the breakdown of the bib hierarchy and I APOLOGIZE in advance if you gifted Eliana any of the bibs that fall into a less-than-desirable category. It’s not you. It’s me. ALL me.

Level 1s: The Vitamin Bibs

These are the bibs that I’m just not that into. Sure, some of them are sort of cute. But they aren’t my style and I’m not really a fan.  Therefore, these bibs have been deemed “Vitamin Bibs.”  Why Vitamin Bibs?  Well, each day Eliana gets her vitamins in a bottle. Her vitamins are a super stinky green liquid that stains. So, I use these bibs when she drinks from those bottles. Let them get stained. These are the bibs that fulfill their bib destiny. (I think by creating the term “bib destiny” I just ratcheted up the level of My Craziness!) This wasn’t a conscious decision I made. It just sort of happened this way. I realized that even though another bib was already pulled out to match her outfit, I would go and get one of these bibs from her drawer just to use with the vitamins. So now, that is their place in life. It’s okay. They’re cool with it.

As I said, some are cute. But, I'm just not into them. 

Apples stain so she's wearing a vitamin bib!

Level 2s: The Okays

These are the bibs that are “okay” in my mind. I don’t love them, but they do the job. Again, they are by no means ugly—they just aren’t particularly cute. I even bought some of them myself but they do not win any points for style or cuteness. (The exception is the “99 Problems But a Bib Ain’t One” bib. That one makes us laugh.) The “Okays” are the bibs that I pull out when the colors coordinate with Eliana’s outfit and there are no better options. And I don’t get bent all out of shape if they get stained or dirty. Well, okay, I get a little bent out of shape.

This post gave me a good excuse to dig through old photos.

Level 3s: The Reliables

Plain, simple, white.  They go with everything. These are the reliable fall-backs when nothing else matches Eliana’s outfit. And yes, I did break down and buy white burp cloths too so that the bibs and burp cloths would match. Can you imagine how much longer it took to put Eliana’s outfit together when I had to coordinate the blanket of the day as well?

Plain, simple, white

Matches everything!

 Level 4s: The Alphas

These bibs are my favorites. I love them. These are the bibs that have been hand-picked by me and unless under extreme circumstances, they will never, never be used with a vitamin bottle. They are super pretty and cute and I freak out if one goes into the wash dirty and I didn’t spray oxy-clean all over it. Oh, the horror! 

The other day I was giving Eliana a bottle before her nap. I looked down and noticed, aghast, that she was drinking a bottle with vitamins AND using one of her super cute Alpha bibs. Nooooooooo!! Normally, I would just turn the bib over so the back gets stained. But, these bibs are cute on both sides. Shoot! Or, I would have pulled the bottle out of her mouth, and dug a vitamin bib out of her drawer. But, the poor little lady was so calm and sleepy that I wasn’t going to disturb her. So, I slowly twisted the bib around to get to the tag on the back and used the tag to wipe up the bit of green mess. PHEW! Great save, MacGyver Mommy.

Sooo pretty! 

Burp cloths and bibs in one.

Nothing that stains when she wears this one. 

How can a bib from this amazing restaurant not be a favorite?

You may be shocked to learn there are times when Eliana is actually bib-less. 

Here's proof: 

This was great, until oatmeal fell onto her pjs. Oops. 

It's okay, Mommy. My clothes will survive.

Now, before you breathe a sigh of relief that I'm getting over my issues, I need to come clean and confess that the only reason I could handle living on the edge without a bib was because of what she was eating. Egg whites and oatmeal won't stain, right??

Now, these are the "bibs" that are just funny.

She's cool with it!

Hey, Daddy has to eat too! (Yeah, Eliana is sleeping under there!)